Dealing with imposter syndrome
I’ve been feeling like an imposter lately — and that’s not because I’ve been playing Among Us.
I’ve been writing for quite some time, but I feel like most of my work is garbage. “I’m not that good of a student or writer”. “I’m too young, and I haven’t lived enough to write good things”. These thoughts started circling my head.
Imposter syndrome started creeping in. So I searched my personal Google (my notes) for dealing with imposter syndrome.
I found one from the master of writing himself, Seth Godin [https://perell.com/podcast/seth-godin-writing-every-day/]:
So Imposter Syndrome was named by a couple of researchers 30 or 40 years ago. And it’s that feeling we have, it afflicts people of every gender, background, all of it. That feeling we have when we’re about to lead or do something important, a feeling like a fraud of saying to yourself, “I have no business doing this. What am I showing up doing? It’s not my turn. I’m an imposter.” And people say, “Here’s how you get rid of imposter syndrome.” People ask me what are the steps to get rid of imposter syndrome? And they’re sort of surprised at my answer. And my answer is, well, of course you feel that way because you are an imposter. And so am I. Because if you are doing work that hasn’t been done before, which means creativity or leadership, then you can’t be sure it’s going to work. Because it’s never been done before.
And so instead of denying how you feel, you might look at how you feel as a symptom that you were doing something important and generous. And when that feeling shows up, we can welcome it, we can sit with it. Because to harder, we try to make it go away, the more powerful it becomes. Don’t worry if you feel like you don’t belong or if you feel like a fraud. It’s a sign that we are stretching our comfort zone. It’s a sign of growth. Welcome it instead.
If everyone feels this way, then no one is an imposter.